While I was at the RWA conference, I attended a workshop called Not Another Sex Scene. The speakers, Kelly Hunter and Anne Gracie, did a fantastic job.
Here are some of their tips:
-Build anticipation before the sex scene so the sexual tension is so intense, the sex scene will be a release (no pun intended).
-Don’t forget to use as many senses as possible. What does the hero smell like? Does his skin taste salty or sweet? Does he moan or does his breathing quicken and become heavy?
-It’s not all about the sexual act itself, it’s also about the emotions, especially for the woman. She may experience these feelings during their “adventure” together and will either be conscious of them at the moment or the feelings will really hit her afterwards.
-Before you write the scene, decide what type of sex scene you’re going to write and label it. This will help keep you on track for the audience you’re targeting. For example, hot & heavy – fly by night, I’m mad at you sex, first time together, almost sex, disaster, etc… Expectations for each of these types of scenes will be different, so knowing ahead of time what you’re going to write will help ensure you stick to those expectations.
-If the sex scene happens early in the book, the focus should be more about the physical act and sensations. If the scene is later in the book, the characters have had a chance to bond, so the scene will be more about the emotional connection and less about the actual act.
-Lock your editor in the closet (unless I’m your editor). Allow yourself the freedom to write the scene the way your gut tells you to write it. Edit later.
-Whose POV should you use? Who has the most to lose or the most to hide? Use their POV.
-Ask yourself how much you want to reveal about the character’s inner thoughts. Change POV if your character wants to hold something back so we don’t see what he/she’s thinking.
-Watch for moving body parts. For example, you shouldn’t write, “Her hand stroked his cheek.” You should write, “She stroked his cheek.” Keep the character, not the body part, as the subject in the sentence.
-Make sure the tone of the scene goes with the tone of the story. Remember the setting affects the tone of the scene, too.
-Avoid clichés like having it rain or thunder.
See? I told you Kelly Hunter and Anne Gracie did a fantastic job with this workshop. I’ll share more about what they said in another post.
What are your tricks for writing sex scenes?
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